Similarly, teach the older women to live in a way that honors God… (Titus 2:3)
Who are your role models?
The term role model generally means any "person who serves as an example,
whose behavior is emulated by others." As I was growing up, some of mine were
Gwendolyn Brooks, Octavia Butler, Anne Rice, Oprah Winfrey, Bill Cosby, Stevie Nicks,
Mary J. Blige, King Arthur (yes, of the Round Table!), my mother, and my older sister.
Today, the list is considerably longer; though very few of the names listed above are still
on it. The people whose behaviors I want to emulate have changed over the years.
One definition of "model" is a pattern or mode of structure or formation.
Models have a purpose. They are designed to serve as the basis for
how future structures should be built. However, if the model isn’t consistent,
then it’s impossible to expect future buildings to be uniform.
Many times we have expectations that are impossible for our children to achieve, not
because of their unwillingness or inability, but because of our own
inconsistency. If what you desire to build is a strong, secure, attractive, and
enduring structure, your model should have a solid foundation and a sound design.
The behaviors we demonstrate for our children serve as the basis
for how they will think, learn, communicate, and mature. Inconsistently
demonstrated behaviors are confusing. If we live one way of life but teach
another, then we model hypocrisy. And hypocrisy lends itself to shallow
foundations and flawed designs.
Application: How do your children behave when you’re not around?
How do they communicate and interact with their peers? With other adults?
This month examine your child’s good and not-so-good behaviors, and then
examine and compare them to your own. Then read Ephesians Chapters 4 and 5 with your children.
God shares some wonderful wisdom on what behaviors we should model in those chapters.
Affirmation: Lord, help me to live in a way that honors you so that I might be a good role model
for my children.