written by Dr. Keith Sherlin of Essential Christianity Ministries. (www.essentialchristianity.com)
The Woman’s Check List for a Spiritual Head, Pt. 1:
by Dr. Keith Sherlin
Essential Christianity Ministries
Does he believe he should serve you as just as Christ serves the Church? (Eph. 5:25-29)
A godly man will realize that he must nurture his wife. He must love her, care for her,
and look out for her interests and spiritual needs. The man must be willing to
give of his life, time, energy, and resources to guide, care for, build and
edify his wife in the things of God. Just as did Christ, who gave his very life
for his bride the church, the man must be willing to sacrifice his life for the good of his wife.
His life must and should be dedicated to the truth of Scripture.
In this way, by living according to the word of God, a man can help
his wife to mature in the Lord and become more like Christ. He should not lead
as a dictator; he should not lead as some harsh ruler. Christ does not lead his
bride, the church, in this way. The man must hold to the teachings of Christ and
by his life of service display the glory of Christ as he cares for his wife just as he would for his own body.
(Warning: Women do not marry a man that does not enjoy serving you.
Do not marry a man that does not love Jesus and the truths as set forth in the Word of God.
The only way a man can truly love you in the highest degree is when he lives within a love relationship with Christ.
A man who truly loves Christ first and foremost is fully able to love you.
Many men fail to understand that a man, as the leader of the home, must lead as a
servant of Christ in order to be able to properly serve, and thereby lead, others.
Often men mistake the idea of being the leader as being someone who controls others.
The idea of a leader, according to Jesus, is one of serving others in grace and truth.
Recall that Jesus said to be first one must become last. To be the greatest one must become the least.
The point is that God calls leaders to serve others. Remember the two greatest commandments:
Love God with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength, and love your neighbor as yourself.
This is how Christ has loved us. Avoid men who do not understand these principles!)