by Malaika Wells
The first three verses of 1 Corinthians denote powerful gifts and acts of sacrifice.
These traits are as grandly described as they are swiftly debunked and eliminated as
ineffective without love. These gifts and sacrifices are designed to edify the body.
The Bible makes it clear that these gifts and actions can be had and
performed without having love. But God is not pleased when these feats
are performed without being motivated by agapo love.
Many marriages are relationships in which spouses give useful and pleasing gifts,
even those mentioned in the 1 Corinthians passage. But just as these gifts are
ineffective apart from love, so often are these gestures void of love as their motivation.
A new car will dazzle but the car will not travel as far as patience, kindness, and humility.
Love does not act unbecomingly, it is not self-serving or provoked nor does it add to the account of wrongs suffered.
Are you behaving badly toward your spouse? Are you easily enticed into battle?
Do you regret the good you do for your spouse when their appreciation seems insufficient?
Is your memory long on wrongs and short on understanding?
Love is said in 1 Corinthians to never fail compared to the temporal and incomplete gifts.
Further, the text shows Paul describing his progression from comparatively child-like thinking
to more mature thinking. So must we also progress in how we love our spouses as time progresses.