"According to the accepted definition, milestones are constructed to provide reference points along the road. This can be used to reassure travelers that the proper path is being followed, and to indicate either distance traveled or the remaining distance to a destination."
One day, on that rare occasion when my husband and I get a chance to have a kids-free day (those of you with children understand this!), we went to the park with two bottles of cold spring water and the Bible. I didn't know what he had planned. When we got there, we strolled around for a while holding hands, making small talk, and enjoying the silence and scenery. After a while we settled on a bench in a shady spot. Andrew opened the bible to the Song of Solomon and began reading.
If you’ve never explored that particular book of the Bible, it is eight chapters of beautiful, passionate verse. It’s lush, mysterious, and sensual. It’s in the Bible! When we finished those eight chapters, we sat on the bench just letting the words and images soak into our spirits. Then we began to share with each other what the Lord had revealed to us through those passages. We got a vision of our marriage through God’s eyes – vital, pleasurable, rich, enduring, demonstrative, and worthy of careful tending. Our bond was strengthened and supported by the understanding we gained that day through the sharing of God’s word with one another.
It was and remains for me a perfect moment – a mountaintop experience. Nothing could have been added to make it better and there was nothing that detracted from its excellence. We need these moments in our marriages and we need to remember them. They are touchstones that take us through the valleys and remind us that God is good and faithful, that his loving kindness endures forever. My husband calls them milestones or “mile markers.”
According to the accepted definition, milestones are constructed to provide reference points along the road. This can be used to reassure travelers that the proper path is being followed, and to indicate either distance travelled or the remaining distance to a destination.
Because the Lord has encouraged and equipped us to forgive like he does (Micah 7:19), the mile markers we make in our marriages don’t look like the world’s. We don’t have to remember, document, and cross-reference every hurt and offense we receive at the hands of our spouses, or every time we were disappointed by them or felt let down. Instead, our milestones mark the victories we win when we work together to accomplish our goals, when we reconcile after giving and receiving deep wounds, when we fast and pray together to get a word from the Lord, and when we share special times of peace and togetherness. When we mark these types of milestones, we are reassured that we are on the right path – together. We are reminded of how far we’ve come from where we used to be and we find the strength to keep going.