by Andrew Wells
Love is sacrificial and selfless. God has given Himself to save us and we respond with
sacrificing ourselves to Him. After which we are to love our neighbors (someone you don’t know,
someone you know intimately and everyone in-between) as we love ourselves.
God’s choice to do this was not the result of any excellence in the objects of His love.
He made the choice without any assignable cause from us.
I find it very easy to love my wife when there is assignable cause and for any
excellence in her character; yet it is just as important to love her
sacrificially and selflessly when there is no good cause to at the time.
Sacrificing one’s life can take on a heroic meaning like dying for someone in a
hail of glory. I have made such statements to my wife and believe them to boot!
But laying down one’s life can also be a more pedestrian act. If I am willing to
lay down my life for my wife, then I should also be willing to cut off the TV
and lay down the remote, or lay down the book, or lay down the need to have all
things my way at all times. More than the breath of our lungs and the blood in
our veins, our lives are who we are and what we do. These things must also at
times be sacrificed in the name of agape love.
Love is obedient and loyal. God repeatedly rebukes His saints for sharing their allegiance with other
deities and disobeying His instructions. God, my first love, is pleased when I
keep His commands pertaining to my spouse, who is my second love.
Notice brethren that being obedient and loyal are what I must choose to do and continue
to choose to do until the end. The word agapo is a verb. While we easily can say that we can say that we
love someone in a poem, love that is not demonstrated cannot be defined because love is what love does.