"...focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead..." - Philippians 3:13
2. Fulfill their request to make a personality change. C’mon…you know there are changes you need to make. Pick the one you least look forward to addressing and make a campaign out of it. Use charts, graphs, a theme, theme song and plan an accomplishment ceremony.
3. Find a physical activity you can do together and plan to do it. - The second part is probably harder than the first part but totally worth it. It’s quality time and healthy lifestyle support all in one.
4. Work together on a mission/ministry activity. Find a ministry support activity to tackle together. Sometimes our evangelistic or mission aspirations take us in opposite directions. Consider working on a ministry mission about which you are both passionate. Even if it’s something you agree to support financially, the idea that you are doing it together matters.
5. Make them a gift – by hand! Pledge to work with a medium you both enjoy. Whether it’s paper, clay, paint, a digital presentation or your own music video. Don’t know how to get started? Find a how-to on YouTube and then make something of significance. No excuses.
6. Eliminate one topic from the “Argument Bank.” You know that issue that seems to pop up no matter how good things are? Uh-huh, that one. Identify that one topic and terminate it with extreme prejudice.
7. Encouragement! – Urge your spouse to pursue one of their ideas and figure out how to support them in that endeavor. Pray with them for God’s will and help them bring their vision to pass.
8. Discuss the future. – Healthy couples tend to have healthy discussions about the future. It may also lead to improved feelings about the present state of things, or better still, stimulate necessary changes needed today.
9. Share a childhood memory. – Don’t require it to be a happy one. Open up and let the conversation go where it will.
10. Compliment. Compliment. Compliment. – Find a body part, a behavior, and a thing they do for you or the family that they do well, and make a fuss!
11. Pledge to repent more and defend yourself less. – Repentance is a great way to grease the wheel for reconciliation. Repentance can even make it easier for you to be understood without taking a defensive attitude.
12. Pledge to forgive them (period). – Sometimes, they really didn’t mean it. Be quick to forgive.
To keep these resolutions, it helps to keep in mind the definition of resolution – it’s a firm decision to do or not do something. Firm in that it is strongly felt and unlikely to change – unyielding even. A decision in that it is a conclusion reached after thoughtful deliberation. Don’t trade a firm decision for an easy out. If you come to these resolutions through prayer, fasting and hearing from God, then try not to release yourself from them with little more than a shoulder shrug following the first disappointment. Draw joy from the satisfaction of doing God’s will through loving and honoring your spouse. Finally, carefully and frequently think on why these resolutions are important to you. By doing so, you won’t have time to forget their significance.